You are not alone

DocHdl1OnVERSA-PPM01tmpTargetI gave the first public reading from Still Life with Horses on Sunday evening, at Augsburg College, home of Howling Bird Press.  The reading went well, and the Q&A that followed also went well.  And then there was a reception with cake and wine and cheese, which was lovely.
But.  What struck me most was the number of women who came up to me at the reception, and in the days that followed, women who pulled me aside to tell me about their own experiences with difficult marriages, relationships that were tainted with invisible emotional abuse.  The kind of repeated trauma that leaves no visible scars or bruises, but scars and bruises you all the same.
Readings from the book touched a nerve in each of these women, and I found myself saying again and again, “You are not alone.”  You are not the only one going through this.  There is a sisterhood out there, made up of those of us who have endured too long the misery of a marriage or partnership filled with anger, hostility, gaslighting, lies, and more.
I can’t begin to tell you what to do, or how you can’t or maybe can fix things.  I can tell you this: you are not alone.  You are not the only one.  Even just knowing that simple one thing is, I hope, a beginning.  The opening of a door.  One you might be able to walk toward, and through.  I did.  It was far from easy, but it made all the difference.  Still Life with Horses is about that walk.  It’s for you.

horse language

Yesterday, we took our paint horse Cody to the vet clinic for his routine therapeutic shoeing appointment which periodically involves x-rays to see how he’s progressing.  Cody has “ringbone” which is a horse person’s term for osteoarthritis.  In Cody’s case, as the x-rays revealed yesterday, he has both high and low ringbone, which means the arthritis affects the coffin joint and the pastern.  Which means, for Cody, things hurt.  His new shoeing prescription should help, as will the injections of steroids he will soon receive.

Cody’s right front foot

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another blurb

One of my favorite writers just wrote a lovely blurb for my forthcoming book (Nov. 2017) Still Life with Horses.  Here it is:

“I loved this luminous and searingly honest story of love, loss, life and hope; and I loved how a horse served as metaphor for all of this.  The lesson I came away with is that in its best and purest form, love can only lead to more love.”

— Elizabeth Berg
author of The Dream Lover and The Story of Arthur Truluv

I feel very honored to have such a wonderful writer say such lovely things about my book.  Thank you Elizabeth Berg.

So, it’s real

My second and next book, that is.  Coming out Fall 2017.  The lovely Howling Bird Press in Minnesota will be bringing  my nonfiction book Still Life with Horses into the world.  So happy to have these wonderful folks to work with, and that my book is going to be real.

I think I feel like a real writer now. Ta da!